5 Sanity Savers When Narcissists Sabotage Your Holidays
If you are reading this blog, you get it. You’ve been there. You’ve been abandoned, insulted, humiliated, with your mood and dignity wrecked. All this as you try to keep a straight face as to not offend the guests.
I remember one Christmas when my soul came crashing down. It was during my marriage to a personally disordered man. When we were out, he’d praise me to the high heavens. But behind closed doors, it was a different story.
One memorable day the two worlds fused. We were hosting a dinner party for about a dozen friends. I made sure to have a gift for each one. They too came with bags full of wrapped goodies. We had so many boxes under our little tree. When it came to sharing the presents, with only a handful of them remaining unopened, I was hit with the realization that my husband got absolutely nothing for me. It wasn’t so much that I needed anything. It was all about the gesture. While the other couples kissed and embraced in gratitude, I felt embarrassed and humiliated. He didn’t even think of me!
When I brought it up later that evening — of course he was probing all evening about why I had such a sour face in front of our guests — I told him why. He slammed the doors and left the house. When he returned, he tossed a pair of slippers at me he got at a drug store when he went there to get himself meds for acid reflux. The whole affair would be quite comedic, had it not been so devastating.