Are BPD “Drama Queens” Manipulative, Sadistic, and Worse?
The hurt and anger caused by—and also suffered by—folks with BPD can be potent.
Women, and men, with borderline personality disorder seem not to know how to stop arguing. Often described as “drama queens” or “abusive,” they too frequently create chaos in situations where others would smoothly deal with the normal differences and disappointments that arise from time to time for all of us.
Marsha Linehan, creator of DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) which is the treatment method that is most often recommended for people with borderline issues, bases her understandings of this disorder on the beliefthat people with bpd “feel the mental squalls of rage, emptiness and anxiety far more intensely than most people do.” This intensity of emotional pain was the theme of the first post in a series of articles I have begun posting on the inner experience of people with borderline disorders.
This article is the second in that series. Like the first post, this article records my dialogue with H.O., a very insightful physician who herself has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Like many BPD sufferers, she has been determined to find routes to recovery.
I have written earlier PT articles on borderline personality disorder from the point of view of people who suffer from having to deal with an individual with difficult-to-deal-with bpd behaviors such as adult children of mothers with BPD. This current series of posts, by contrast, clarifies the painful inner experience of someone who struggles with a borderline personality disorder him/herself.