“All of My Exes are Bipolar / Crazy / Hysterical / Bitter / Jealous / In Love With Me”
The thing about BPD is that it’s actually a perfect label for the psychopath’s ideal victim. If you’re naturally cheerful and optimistic, these traits become your “mania”. Meanwhile, your valid reactions to your partner’s abuse become the “depression”. During the idealize phase, when the psychopath was charming & mirrored your entire personality, you were walking on sunshine. Life was amazing. But then they began criticizing you and cheating on you, so you became upset and cried. They gave you the silent treatment, all the while dangling new & former lovers in your face. Did this upset you? Excellent. Viola, you’re bipolar! Because that’s definitely how mental illness works.
This is The Emotional Abuser’s Trap, and no empathetic person would ever callously refer to their ex as “bipolar” to a new partner if they actually believed that to be the truth.
It horrifies me to think about the number of victims who falsely diagnose themselves based on volatile emotions that were intentionally provoked by someone else. Most survivors find that it takes 1-2 years for their moods to fully re-stabilize. Until that point, please be very reserved in deciding what’s wrong with you. There’s a good chance you just have a bad case of the “fell in love with a butthead” blues. It’s also worth learning about your personality type, to discover more about how your emotions work!