21 ‘Harmless’ Comments That Actually Hurt People With Borderline Personality Disorder
If you live with borderline personality disorder (BPD), you might be familiar with some of the seemingly “harmless” but incredibly hurtful things people often say to those struggling with it.
Sometimes “harmless” comments can come in the form of a question. (Did you take your meds today?) Sometimes they come with a “solution” via personal anecdote. (When I’m feeling angry, I just go on a run.) Most often, they come from a place of misunderstanding BPD entirely. And even though these “harmless” comments may come from a good place, they can often invalidate the struggles of someone living with BPD.
When someone with BPD opens up about their struggles, oftentimes they aren’t looking for your “solution,” “advice,” opinions, DIY healing guide, etc. — they may just be looking for someone to listen and be there.
We wanted to know what “harmless” comments people with BPD have heard that actually hurt them, so we asked our Mighty borderline personality disorder community to share one with us and explain what it feels like to hear it.
It’s important to remember what may seem “harmless” to one person may actually be hurtful to another. No matter what anyone says, your feelings are valid, and you deserve support.
Here’s what our community shared with us: