Sleeping with the Devil: 11 Signs to Look for When Having a Sex with a Narcissist
Sex is an important part of a relationship, and in a healthy relationship, it helps us to connect with our lover on an intimate level. You explore vulnerabilities, imperfections, turn-ons, quirks, and sensuality. However, when in a relationship with a narcissistic lover, sex can feel very different. It can range from blissful, forceful, to disconnected, degrading, non-existent, to illegal. From a narcissist’s point of view, sex is a way to gain control; thus, regardless of how great the sex is, there is a hidden agenda. The agenda is to get their need for control and manipulation met – and if sex is part of the bargain, then so be it. In layman’s terms, that is called “using, manipulation, taking advantage of,” or “a con.” Here are some common characteristic sexual behaviors to be on the lookout for if you are in a relationship with a narcissist.
1) The best you ever had. If you find yourself, still thinking about sex with an ex, or how great the sex was with your current lover, especially in the beginning of the relationship – it was because this was done on purpose. Narcissistic lovers pay great attention to detail with every touch, every caress, and every kiss to leave you wanting more.