How Narcissists Use Money to Abuse ( The Narcissist and Money )
Narcissists use money to help them feel special and superior to others. Status items such as designer clothes, luxury cars, upscale homes, dinners and trips are essential ways through which a narcissist can enhance his ego. Spending money when you have it, is one thing; spending money when you don’t have it, is quite another. A narcissist believes that he is entitled to the best, even if he does not have the money to afford it. He easily fools himself into believing that the money will be there in the future, even if it’s not there right now.
Narcissists can fool others by making a show of generosity by being big tippers or picking up the bill. Look closely however, and you’ll notice that narcissists show such generosity for the sole purpose of establishing their reputations as VIP’s.
Narcissists do not have normal relationships with money. They may ask you for money even though they are the major breadwinner or they have the higher paying job. They may never take their partner or spouse someplace nice for dinner. Being frugal is fine, but being pathological about money is not. Someone that has a good job that never spends their own money may possibly be a narcissist. The opposite pathology surrounding a narcissist and his money is that of the showoff. This person spends money enthusiastically but unrealistically and unwisely; for example, the man with huge roles of bills in his pocket who always buys drinks for the bar, yet can’t save enough to pay his mortgage each month..
Narcissists make themselves feel bigger by convincing themselves that others are smaller by comparison. Narcissists with money look down on the working class. Narcissists in the working class look down on those with less money even if the other has a more elite job. Whatever narcissists have (or think they have) is what they use to look down on other people with. Narcissists lust for money and are never satisfied with the status quo; it is like an addiction and they will always need more.