How To Tell If You’re A Co-Narcissist
Have a hard time knowing how you feel after a fight with your partner? Just can’t make up your mind about whether to stay in a job that’s comfortable or push yourself for something more ambitious? Take the blame for spilling three of the six coffees you volunteered to get for your team even though you know deep down it was at least 65% Carol’s fault? If you have trouble tapping into your emotions or standing up to others, it turns out, you might just be a co-narcissist. Here’s what that means — and why you don’t have to resign yourself to accepting the stress that it almost certainly brings you.
But let’s start with what it means to be a straight-up narcissist: “The essence of narcissism is a lack of ability to empathize,” says Alan Rappoport, PhD, a psychotherapist based in San Francisco. “The person’s entire reference is themselves.” Everything a narcissist does is centered around how it makes them look, whether or not it advances their goals, and how it makes them feel.