Feelings of Unworthiness Tied to Narcissists Making Us “Earn” Everything
“Trust isn’t just given. It must be earned.” If I had a a dollar for all the times I’ve heard that! Unfortunately, that (very erroneous!) dynamic didn’t just apply to trust. It applied to e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g, from physical items to age-appropriate milestones to relationships. Everything must be earned. That’s how narcissists think. Nothing is a “given” because it’s “normal” because there is no normalcy in their world. The narcissist’s version of reality operates like some Cosmic Vending Machine that must be impressed before it’ll dispense.